Lots of times, people pertain to our office looking for guidance about how to handle a relative whose irregular or eccentric behavior is triggering concern.
Where do you draw the line in between being eccentric and requiring intervention?
It’s time to step in when there is genuine physical risk– when an individual’s behavior has put him or her in a state that might cause real damage.
For example, a lady lives alone in her house and refuses to come out, does not consume effectively, and does not take recommended medication. Your home is incredibly dirty and messy. That type of behavior without any type of intervention would cause death.
Or perhaps a man wanders out in the middle of the night in his pajamas when it is 20 degrees outside. He does not understand where he is and does not keep in mind where his home is. That type of behavior would put him in risk.
It’s time to step in when someone has a mental-health problem– typically dementia– that has actually resulted in hazardous behavior. For instance it is not unusual for a person with dementia to act out in a violent manner because of fear and deception. She or he may physically attack a partner or caregiver.
It’s time to action in when a person has actually revealed a severe lack of judgment when it concerns money and is at danger for ending up being impoverished. This is often an individual who has been the victim of some sort of monetary abuse. Maybe a member of the family or somebody who’s been given access to the individual’s savings account has stolen money from the account. Perhaps a dishonest person has swindled the person.
What about an individual who addicted to a home shopping show on television? Is that a reason to step in?
But if she is investing what she can pay for or even a little bit more– well we have actually all been foolish. We might not like what the person is doing with his or money, however we need to keep in mind that a skilled person does deserve to invest his or her money. Nevertheless, it is really challenging for adult kids to see their parents doing something that the moms and dads would have told them was stupid.
One thing to be mindful of is behavior that is uncharacteristic. For example, state if Mother has never given lavish presents and has actually constantly been evenhanded with presents to her kids. Suddenly among her kids is driving a Porsche that he says Mama offered him as a gift. This may be an indication that something is awry. Does Mama keep in mind providing him the car? Is she totally familiar with what she is doing or is she confused?
The time to do something about it is when the habits is putting a person at risk for running through all his or her loan and having absolutely nothing left to survive on. These are all excellent examples of scenarios where a guardianship need to be explored.